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Well, by "out there" I mean "in a lab somewhere", you can't *buy* it, it's not on the market.

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Well... the artificial reality of poverty anyway.

One about how the IRS audited this woman because - get this - she doesn't make enough money. Apparently, the only way you can live below the poverty line is if you're hiding income, and very stupidly as well.

And this article about how children on Medicaid are more likely to be treated with antipsychotics than children with private insurance.

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Quick linkspam from [info]ginmar
There was a post on Jezebel about the newer line of black Barbies and representation and race. In a world where this is still obviously important, it seems like something you'd want to get right right off the bat. (Uh... don't read the comments there, it's YouTube. You might not want to watch the video either, come to think, it's positively heartbreaking.)

And apparently she got a lot of sucky it's-all-about-me whining comments.

Click here if you want [info]ginmar's take.

This is an awesome link with customized Barbies.

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It's the shocker of the century, I tell you.

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Of course, the comments are atrocious. A lot of people there blame affirmative action, citing studies (that they can't name) proving that black people get into college 100, 300, 500, or 800 points lower on the SAT than their white peers. At some number that might be true, I don't know what number that is. Of course, getting into Harvard at 300 points lower than everybody else is still a major accomplishment... especially when, on the other side, "everybody else" includes people who got in because Daddy went to school there and bought them a new building last year.

In the end, though, it doesn't amount to much. "Oh, their diplomas aren't worth as much because they got in at a lower SAT score!!!!" So? Look, it doesn't really matter if you got in because of the color of your skin or the color of your money - or heck, the color of your goddamn panties! What matters is staying in. Unless I'm mistaken, grading isn't typically done with affirmative action in mind (although bribes of cash or sex might be part of the equation, I guess), is it? If anything, I'd assume that the proportion of graders who think "oh, affirmative action!" and grade accordingly is about equal to the proportion of bosses and HR folks who think that and hire accordingly.

And then there are the comments that combine that line about affirmative action with "Well, the black people I've met don't dress right and don't know how to talk and I don't like them". Who the hell are they hiring? I've yet to meet the person (of any race!) who didn't understand that you talk and dress and act one way with your family and friends and another way at the office and at church. (Worst is the person who phrased that exact argument as "Unlike ME, black people insist on clinging to their ethnic identity in clothes and hair and speech". Somehow that contrives to sound even more offensive than "They dress like slobs and can't string one word in front of the other and are all going in to work drugged up and playing loud music at their desks all day".)

Edit: Telling quote from a comment by [info]cumaeansibyl:

Fun fact: while I was at K, a fellow student discovered that the average high-school GPA of male students was lower than that of female students, low enough to be statistically significant. At another school this might be explained by athletics, but K is a Division III school, which means nobody gives a shit. Rather, as one of my profs pointed out, the majority of applicants to most co-ed colleges are female, and school administrations are loath to admit too many women for fear of being labeled a "girls' school" -- this is especially a problem at small, private liberal-arts schools like mine. Generally they aim for a max 60/40 split female/male split, but even that means rejecting more qualified female applicants in favor of their male counterparts. And guess what? We had hardly any black students when I went there, so it definitely wasn't about race. It was discrimination in favor of white men.

Now, like I said, if they could hack it, good for them. But I'd like to see some of those commenters argue that those nice white boys' diplomas are worth less because they got let in for being white boys, because that's where their logic takes them.

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What really gets me is how some of these people in this article talk. They're all going "Oh, well, a lot of people cheat the system but not me" or "I'm not one of those lazy people" or whatnot.

What do they think, that most people, given half a chance, would willingly choose to live on public assistance and charity rather than work? What nonsense! They can see looking at their own situations that this is not the case, but they cling to their old stories. Unbelievable.

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(More or less. I've found time to work on the tags in [info - community] asperger.)

A few Tuesday's ago I went to a protest against Autism Speaks where I refrained from telling anybody not in the know that they're evil. I mean, it's patently true, but people don't listen when you just come out and say it like that. Due to travel and cooking I was super late, and did my best to ease into this by holding a sign in front of my face so I didn't have to deal with people if I didn't want to (very convenient excuse), but I actually have some thoughts about it that I'm waiting to post as soon as they come out clearly. I'd like to say that all this thinking is making for a great post, but it's probably going to be about average. Sorry.

However, since we're loosely on the subject now, I'll direct you to an article!

Here's an article about the kid (with Asperger's) who ran away and spent 11 days on the subway.

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Who owns lesson plans? Is it the teacher who wrote them?

Well, most of us would say that if you spend hours of unpaid labor doing work to make you better at your underpaid job, you get to own what you make then. And apparently some teachers would say so too, which is why you can buy teacher-made lesson plans online. (Of course, you could always buy lesson plans somewhere, but some teachers are cutting out the middle man and selling their own plans.)

And then - shock and horror! - they're spending the money they earn. Oh, sure, mostly that money appears to be going towards classroom supplies, which I would think the state should pay for, but sometimes - terrible! - they're paying for things like mortgages and home repair and the occasional dinner out. Yes, they're living the high life and it's WRONG WRONG WRONG.

Lemme tell you something. If teachers have to resort to selling the fruits of their hard (and otherwise unpaid!) labor online in order to pay off their mortgages (or, worse, purchase the supplies that should have been provided for them and their students already), there's room for outrage, sure, but not at the teachers. (For that matter, even if they're spending that money on fast cars and trips overseas in first class, who gives a fuck? This is a capitalist nation, isn't it? Can't they spend the money they earned from their time however they like? If we're gonna get all "socialist" about our public school teachers, well, I may just move! To Canada!)

Of course, the comments are a pain. Some people are under the impression that buying and selling lesson plans is EXACTLY THE SAME as buying and selling tests. Stupid. We don't expect surgeons to re-invent the art every time they pick up a scalpel, do we? No, we tell them how the procedure goes when they're in school (and still being tested on these things) and then we let them do it. Why should teachers spend hours of their own (unpaid!) time writing up a lesson plan on something they have to cover when 50 other people have already done it? They've already passed their tests, we assume they know how to teach (if they don't, well, then they need all the help they can get, don't they?), so let's help them do it already!

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http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2009/09/spider-silk/

Yeah, the title pretty much sums up this article.

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And it's a great story, too - go read.

Cradles to crayons

And if all you have are old crayons and you aren't willing to deal with them yourself - crayon recycling!

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Here's one on the intelligence of fishies

Now, we all hear a lot about goldfish. People get goldfish for their kids because "they're easy to take care of, and die soon anyway". They put them in bare bowls because "well, they don't need more, and they die soon anyway, and they're not that bright". They don't do anything about stimulation because "well, they're not that bright, and they die soon anyway". These statements would be troubling, except that the premises are totally flawed to begin with! When properly cared for, goldfish live decades - so all those fish that "died soon anyway" did so because they were killed by incompetent owners. And given that you can teach a goldfish to do a variety of tricks, I'm not so sure they're as unintelligent as all that. It's cruelty to have an animal and not give it any form of stimulation at all, it's like locking them in solitary for their whole life!

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Two articles on two different kindergartens.

One on a charter school that "justifies" its trip to the farm by calling it "test prep".

Some of the comments are disgusting, blaming parents for kids not going "to the zoo". When are they supposed to go to the zoo? On a weekday, when it closes at 5? On the weekend, when it costs $12 per person and is crowded besides and you have to do your shopping and your cleaning and visit family and go to church? Uncool, guys.

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And one about an absurdly expensive private school for gifted kids

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An article on zero waste facilities and communities

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And finally, one on problems faced by African immigrants in the Bronx

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The details appear to be: There's this cross in the park, erected to honor war dead. Religious services are held at this cross. The park officials have refused to let other religious groups put their own memorials at the site. In a deal that sounds shady even to type out, that little patch of land was sold on the condition that the memorial be kept up - if the memorial comes down, it's again part of the national park, so it's like this little patch of technically private land in the middle of a public park, like that makes all the difference.

The comments contain the normal amounts of fail. And once again, I will dredge through the comments to drag them up here and tell you all how annoyingly wrong they are. Truly, I deserve a medal.

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Have you ever reconnected with long-lost friends over the Internet? Overall, have the relationships you've rekindled been more meaningful or superficial? Are there any people you wish you hadn't run into again online?


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Just posting to say how ironic that Writer's Block is in light of this article I read on Saturday. Thanks, [info]ginmar.

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And bidets!

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Link two
Link three - this one talks about sewers

And a picture of what purports to be a Japanese toilet. Clever design, you don't have to redo all your plumbing to reuse that graywater.

Interestingly, there's a lot of talk there about saving toilet paper, and how even with a bidet you still need toilet paper, and nobody seems to realize that everybody on Etsy makes cloth toilet wipes. They're pretty and fluffy, what more can you ask for?

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In the comments, the very first comment is of the sort that really gets me - somebody implying that the only learning that counts as "learning" is the sort you do sitting in a chair that you can be tested on. Tying your shoes isn't learning, I suppose. Dealing with complex social situations isn't learning. Only math and reading are learning - and probably only if taught the way she thinks of as appropriate. Bah.

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Incidentally, on the subject of homework - Ten minutes, per grade, per night. The National PTA and the National Education Association can be assumed to know something on this subject.

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They're all here, I'll just pick and choose

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I want to end with the closing paragraphs of the actual article:

Recently, Amy Utzinger, a mother of four in Tucson, Ariz., let her daughter, 7, walk down the block to play with a friend. Five houses. Same side of the street.

Afterward, the friend’s mother drove Mrs. Utzinger’s daughter home. “She said, ‘I just drove her back, just in case ... you know,’ ” recalled Mrs. Utzinger. “What was I supposed to say? How can you argue against ‘just in case’?”


I'll tell you how you argue against 'just in case'. You point out that the risk of dying in a fatal crash is so insanely high that you never let your child enter a car without your permission and stare at this woman as though she's deluded - which she is if she has to drive your kid five houses instead of, you know, walking her... or watching from the porch.

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Here's one on the school whose kids had an amazing Lego city
And a reaction to said article, which I've never seen before.

And one, two, three articles I just got from FreeRangeKids. I'll crosspost that last article and then take on some of the comments in a bit. The comments are mostly decent, but that's because the NYTimes requires comments to be approved first.

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One from a mother of an autistic kid (WARNING! There's a *reason* an aspie felt she needed to reply to this one. If you're in a bad place right now, and on the spectrum, you might not want to read this link.)

A response from an aspie

A response to the last two

And one extra


I actually intend to go and deal with some of the comments in a bit, but god they're depressing. Click at your own risk with the comments, seriously.

I *think* you don't need to be logged in to read those, but as I can't remember my password I never log out! Comment if you can't view the entries, kk?

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I'll link and c+p it in a second, and I'll also quote (and snark) some of the more interesting comments, but before I even get to that part I want to say something.

I've often found that, online, the people I disagree with have much worse writing skills than the people I *do* agree with - and to quote one of my new favorite characters, Clementine, I am not even exaggerating!

This is doubly (and hilariously, and ironically, and sadly) true when I disagree with the self-proclaimed Defenders of Language. It's bad enough that one can't correct another person's spelling without making a huge error in their own comment, but these people who go on and ON about how much learning the "cannon" did for them cannot even tell the difference between "would have" and "would of", or between a full sentence and a barely comprehensible fragment. I'm not cherrypicking. I refuse to quote *all* of them just because they're hypocritically less literate than they claim to be, but keep this in mind when reading the comments: The critical ones are almost all like that. I don't claim to have perfect writing either (I never was clearly taught about commas and semi-colons, I freely admit that), but at least I don't claim my education is better because it involved some classics. (At least this group, unlike the ones who threw a hissy fit over the teaching of the specific jingle "I before E", seem to have enough reading comprehension skills to understand the article. That's a change.)

Any comments in bold are left by me.

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And of course, the comments.

Before you click the link, note that a lot of the comments disparage comic books (and graphic novels don't exist). I still don't understand whence this scorn. Now, my uncle, back before he did all those drugs, used to be (my mother says) quite bright. And the whole class was shocked when he did superwell on his reading assessment in elementary school because "all he reads are comic books!" Of course, he read them voraciously and probably read some that were "above his level", and there's the difference.

Ray Bradbury, in Fahrenheit 451, makes the point that it's the content, not the delivery that matters - if we tell great stories by television, they're still great stories. People forget he made that point in the book, but he did.

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Fairly interesting, but the real attraction is at the link in the article.

GoTopless

See, you're reading along about history, and equality, and toplessness, and we've got some pictures and it's all well and good until suddenly, apropos of nothing, we get:

Who can participate? We welcome everyone! GoTopless was founded by the Raelian Movement, which recognizes that life on Earth was created by advanced extraterrestrial scientists. These scientists, both male and female, used their mastery of genetic engineering to create humans in their own image (breasts included!). GoTopless includes thousands of women and men, who have a wide variety of beliefs, affiliations, etc...

Right. Well, I cherish the right of all people to believe what they want to believe. I suppose randomly stating your belief that humans were created by aliens is, in fact, no weirder than if the same site had randomly stated that they're members of any more conventional faith. (Which just goes to show that there's a time and a place. Not everything needs to be linked to your religion.)

This is them. I don't think I'm converting any time soon, but then, I'm also not converting to any older and more established belief systems. In 500 years, who knows what people will think?

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Here's an article about parents who dislike their kids getting an icee (note spelling) at the playground or when out and about, and who are working to prevent unlicensed vendors for no reason other than that they don't like saying no to their kids. (That's how it reads, anyway.)

Choice quotes: 1. Parents in most places improvise solutions — running the other way when they hear the jingle or telling their children that they left their wallets at home.

2. As a new mother, she said, people coach you on potty training and what to feed your child. “But the ice cream truck, nobody ever mentions that,” she said.


I have the answer to both of them: Be the parent and tell your kid "no". No, they CANNOT have an icee. No, they CANNOT keep whining for one, repeatedly. My nieces, they know that asking over and over again will turn a yes or a maybe into a no, will turn a no into a time-out - or an immediate trip home. This isn't hard, is it?

Or say yes. No skin off my back, that's for sure.

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Prosperity gospel. Huh. I'm not a Christian, but I'm fairly damn certain that's not actually supported in any canonically accepted scripture. Accepted by anybody.

People want to throw away their money, that's their business, but it's wrong to scam them out of it any faster. Comments in bold are mine.

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An article on psychological problems faced by Chinese-American children coming "home" to their parents after being sent to live with their grandparents. Interestingly, it seems the worst of these problems are caused by what ought to be a good thing - due to the proliferation of preschool, parents are calling their kids home at younger ages than they used to, at 2 instead of 6. Of course, two year olds are less likely to understand that these strangers are their *families*, you know?

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An article on changing ways of life in the Amazon

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An article on Sephardic Jews on the Jersey Shore

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I'm reading through the comments now.

It's a pity some of the examples chosen are so... weird, like the kid who peed in the friend's yard and whose mother was surprised he wasn't invited back.

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There's a wide range of comments, but there are a few that keep coming up that I wanna reply to. (Alas, comments appear to be closed now, so I can't do so there.)

1. There's the "I don't want to sit where your kid's (potty-trained) naked butt has been" argument. This makes a lot of sense as a personal squick, but as a rational "because of germs" argument it fails. If your pants and underpants can't prevent the terrible germs from eating you from the bottom, why would the kid's pants and underpants have prevented the germs from getting on the seat in the first place??? Unless you're both naked on the same seat, in which case you're being a little hypocritical. (And it's not like kids are bastions of hygiene anyway. I'm more worried about sitting where their hands have been than their butts!)

I can only assume these are the people who, uh, sprinkle when they tinkle.

2. There's the "OMG! Pedophile! They'll hurt your kids!" argument which makes some more sense... except where it doesn't.

For most people, nudity is less alluring than a certain type of clothing. I don't know, I guess pedophiles could be different, but I suspect that most of them would also be more attracted to clothed kids (especially in, say, "grown-up" outfits that are vaguely sexualized) than naked ones.

2a. There's also the "I don't want pedophiles seeing my kids and not going near them!" argument, which is another one that works as a personal squick (and one I wouldn't argue with) but that probably doesn't harm the kid at all. I can only repeat my earlier argument and say that if they're getting off watching your kid, they're probably doing it no matter what your child is wearing. (Best not to think about it too much.)

3. There's the "If you don't clothe them fully from the time they're born, they'll never learn social norms!" argument, which is just nonsensical. We all learn things as we get older. (And just because somebody allows their child more freedom in this area does not mean that they never discipline their child. Logic, plz.)

4. And there's one more pedophile argument (we sure do have a lot of them) which runs "If you don't make them wear clothes, they'll have no idea something is wrong if an adult tries to harm them!"

That also makes no sense. Surely you can teach a kid about not touching private parts without making them wear clothes inside your own home? Or teach them that it's okay for KIDS to be naked but not grown-ups? Or, if you're a naturalist, teach them that some types of behavior are okay when naked, but not others?

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